No offense intended to men, but I think its a man thing. My husband does not understand how extremely frustrating and annoying this is. He does literally make me not want to go. For years I thought it was some form of passive aggressive, or controlling behavior.

Just this second he's done another one of those things that drives me up the wall!!!! He woke up to go to the bathroom. He's looking for the remote to change the channel. 1) Now I've got to stop what I'm doing to find it for him. 2) HE'S GOING TO FALL BACK ASLEEP IN FIVE SECONDS, WHAT DOES HE CARE WHAT I'M WATCHING.

Well now that that's out of my system I can get back to the topic at hand. This situation creates all sorts of friction that does not need to happen. Think about it, is it the place you're going to that you find irritating or is it the process you have to go through to get there?

What I would suggest is when things like this come up, both of you write down five things you'd like to do/go. See if you have matching ideas. Go from there. What has worked for me is that I understand that this is his way of communicating. It doesn't make it less frustrating.