Hi and I'm so glad you found us. You know, if you DON'T tell someone, the rest of your siblings are in DANGER of being molested by your father!! Who is going to protect THEM??? I know you don't want to publicly let this out, but your siblings are in danger and they need someone to protect them from this man. If he molested/raped you, who's to say he won't do it to the rest of the kids? If there is some way to do it, let some authority figure know what happened.

As for your fiance,' since you want an open relationship, just tell him. It won't make a difference if he loves you. If it changes things, then he wasn't very serious about the relationship, right? But I suppose he should know in case you have issues with sex or intimacy, etc. There could be some issues that you aren't completely aware of right now, Have you had any therapy? You might consider it, as anyone who has been raped/molested has probably got some unacknowledged anger/rage that needs taking care of.

I wish you the very best. Please let us know how you do and how things come out. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee