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Originally Posted by ElisaB
As a mother of three (four, if you include the father), I'm always there when they're sick... nurturing them back to health, feeding, caring for them 24/7 until they regain their health. BUT, when mom's sick... nothing! No one takes care of me, nursing me back to health. In fact, it's just another day of hell and screaming, and arguing and not caring. It's no wonder I don't wanna be here. I care so much about those around me but they don't care back!! Hurts me so much!
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"No good deed goes unpunished". Lucy ..... can't remember her surname.
I know how you feel, because I have experienced it not only with my grown daughters but with most other people whom I had helped in any way I could. They turned their backs on me. Ingratitude, for such people is a "burden", because they feel it as a "debt". That sense of indebtedness gets transmuted consciously or subconsciously into its opposite - entitlement. They think it is you who OWE THEM everything. (one of the new ego-defense mechanisms.) Conversely, they owe you nothing.
Your children and your unempathetic husband are taking you for granted. I suggest you go on a strike, when you get better. Write a message: Your dinner is in the supermarket, then leave the house. If you can go somewhere for a few days, all the better. If they guilt-trip you, upon your return, get angry. Find chipped crockery, get out of the house and smash it with full force on the concrete. Then, write a rota of chores. Wish you all the best.