I live in Minnesota, and I am also not sure if the laws are state to state or not. But anyway the required age to go to the gynecologist is 21, but you can certainly make an appointment if you are younger. But like I said in an earlier post, I'd have to talk to my parents to do that and that's not something I'm comfortable with unless its an emergency. I know everyone is going to tell me that I should talk to them anyway, but I'd rather deal with the pain, honestly. Haha.
And yes, the vagina is supposed to relax when stimulated, which it does for me... to a point. Not enough to be pleasurable, however. Does anyone know if it could be a size issue?