Pikku Myy... I can't believe how familiar all this sounds to me.

I tried to explain to my ex-husband what "subservient" was. I think he liked to keep me scared to keep me in what he viewed as "in line"

Chances are your daughter will understand. I would have given anything to get away from my Dad. My Mom wanted to, but stayed for me. (You can see the pattern that developed)

I did leave my marriage and move on. In time I fell in love again too...with another very controlling man. The only difference is...he is not at all scary I eventually found my voice and we are good.

Exactly how all this affected my daughter...I'm not sure.

You need to feel safe. I wish you well