I found this simple questionnaire about relationships. I thought I would share.

If you had to create a short list of people you could spend the day with, would your spouse be on that list?
Yes, (before the events of this week)

Do you genuinely enjoy each other's company?
I enjoy her company. I don't know if she enjoys mine.


Do you laugh when you’re together?
We have similar senses of humor.


Do you have the same values, goals and interests?
Somewhat. I think all she wants out of life is to be a stay at home mom. I want to be successful and challenged at work. I want a wife with the same interest, but a different career. I would like a spouse that is a doctor or nurse. I have always appreciate women that are full of compassion and want to help others.


Do you and your spouse enjoy doing the same things?
We used to bond over video games but I have started to grow out of wanting to play. I want something to do that is more fulfilling.


Do the two of you want the same things out of life?
I don't know. I want to work and be successful. I also want a deep connection with someone that I enjoy to be around.


Do you express a lot of affection and appreciation for each other?
I try and give her affection. She makes me feel guilty and unwanted by being frustrated about it.


Or is there mostly indifference, negativity and hostility in your relationship?
She shows me a lot of indifference.


Does your partner make you feel understood?
Not really. When I talk about me I think she mostly tunes me out. She doesn't take in interest in most things I like.


Does your spouse try to see your point of view?
Not really. I think she only likes to look at it from her side.


When discussing things, does your husband or wife listen to what you have to say?
Yes when we actually discuss things. Both of us tend to ignore problems until the become giant snowballs.


Is your relationship based on fairness? Does your spouse see you as an equal?
I don't think so. She wants me to make all the decisions and take care of everything. It feels like I have married a child.


Do you feel you are treated with respect? Or do you feel used, exploited, or taken for granted?
I feel taken for granted. I am left to do most work in the releationship. I married a chef who plays video games when she is not cooking her one meal a day.


Do you feel that your spouse will be there for you in a time of need?
No. I reveled my darkest secrets to her without knowing if she would accept me or understand. Her response was to have an emotional affair with some guy online.


Can you count on your spouse for help when the going gets tough?
No. She buckles under pressure and expects me to fix things.


Do you feel comfortable sharing your innermost thoughts with your spouse?

Not easily and it is difficult to share.


How easy is it for you to talk to your spouse about sensitive issues?
No. I feel guilty and ashamed for asking for anything.


When you disagree with each other, do the two of you work together and try to resolve your differences?
We both avoid problems until they become overwhelming.


Or is there a lot of hostility, disregard and contempt when disagreements arise?
I would say disregard and then I feel like when things go wrong it is my fault.


Does your spouse satisfy you sexually?
Somewhat. She was my only partner. I think she would be much more attractive with 120 pounds lighter. When we have sex she doesn't do much work. I also asked her to dress more like a women and she tells me what is the point. I say it is for me and it is something I like. My requests went unanswered. I don't feel like she is there to please me. It feels like she lays there and wants me to use her to please myself. Sometimes sex feels one sided. I want to be touched and connected. I don't want someone to lay there and take it for 30 minutes.


Do you have sex on a regular basis? Or are you disappointed or frustrated with your sex life?
The first couple years we had sex almost everyday. After that we both started to lose interest. It went from everyday to a couple times a week to once a months to a half dozen times a year. After she complained about it, I tried to have sex everyday and she got irritated with that. I am completed frustrated with it. I also don't like that she doesn't initiate sex. I want to know I am desired and when she expects me to make her have sex whenever i feel like it, It makes me feel like i am using her. I don't like that.




I think the answer is no for me. Any thoughts?