Good question. It's a kind of shorthand way of saying he had a right to satisfy his physical needs and desires without having to have an explicit "yes" every time. We had safe words if things were more than I could handle. He was always very good about helping me to explore and move beyond what were my hangups. But he always honored my hard limits.

One thing I didn't say earlier is that we also had fun together. Unlike a lot of other couples we actually got along better when we were able to spend stretches of time together, rather than having to juggle a longer-distance relationship.

I hope this answers your question. If you have other questions please feel free to ask.