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Old Mar 08, 2013, 10:40 PM
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It sounds like he is objectifying you and I'm sure that kills your self esteem. I don't think people like feeling like sex objects. Maybe it just comes across that way. I think two people need to be on the same page when it comes to sexual frequency.

I have mixed emotions about the subject. In the last couple of months before this fall out, I wanted sex everyday. I think I was over compensating for my lack of interest in the previous months. I also wanted to show her I though she was still pretty and that I still wanted her. It was a bit of selfishness as well. I generally enjoy sex. For me I like the closeness and intimacy it brings. To be connected deeply, the pleasure and give and take between two people. I felt fulfilled being able to satisfy her, and I enjoyed when I finshed. Honestly, it is the only time in my life that I experience bliss. The moments afterwards, when you are laying there looking at each other and you know you are loved. I would take that feeling everyday if I could. That is just my 2 cents.
Adam,
I completely agree with what you've said. His verbal description of sex is demeaning to me and his attitude is objectifying. It doesn't hurt my self esteem as much as make me want to pull away since the sex lacks all intimacy. I wouldn't be surprised if he left a hundred bucks on the nightstand and walked out, so to speak. There is no connection between us and I'm really not paying the slightest bit of attention during the act itself. I don't know what he's feeling during these times and perhaps he also experiences bliss and thinks it's satisfying.

I appreciate your 2 cents!
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Bub
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