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Originally Posted by LovelaceF
Her choice is to either:
1) Listen to her husband's needs and try to help.
2) Listen to her husband's needs but not help.
3) Ignore her husband's needs and focus on her own needs.
4) Ask her husband to listen to her needs instead.
5) Try to work something out that would benefit both husband and wife.
It seems like she's leaning toward option #3, which is not a choice that will benefit the marriage.
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Lovelace,
I largely disagreed with your first post, but this one got me thinking a bit deeper. I like your synopsis of the choices. I don't necessarily think I'm in the #3 category, but am probably somewhere between 1 & 2. The rub of it is, my heart is not in it. I've not cut him off from sex. I will give him the 2 weeks every day if he thinks that is what is needed, but it's akin to brushing my teeth. I do it without any thought because it needs to get done.
Is that truly helping him? IDK. Maybe yes if he's not as obsessed with porn. But there's no way I could keep up that every day pace, so then would I be responsible for him if he lapsed? Would he not just say it's my fault - he was ok as long as ....
Thanks for helping me think this though!
