I have not given my wife an orgasm since 2003. She had them with me the first 6 months we were dating. The problem is emotional. She is from India and while in India a male Indian sex doctor got her off in 5 minutes stimulating her nipples. She can give herself and orgasm with her finger and with sex toys.

But tonight I asked her if I could use the same sex toy that gave her an orgasm. Nothing happened. After 10 mins. she said "this isn't working." Because I was there she could not get aroused.

Divorce is not an option. I tried to leave her once and she threatened suicide because her family would disown her if I left, because Indians don't believe in divorce.

So now that I know I can't even use a sex toy on my wife to get her off as she closes her eyes in a dark room, who do I live in a marriage like this? I don't feel like a man. I am not happy.

1. And no she is not only attracted to Indian men. Since she was 6 years old she told her mother she wants to marry a "blue eyed America boy." I have blue eyes and I am America. Remember I got her off in the beginning.

2. We talk about this problem all the time and she can't tell me why I can't get her off. She says cop-outs like sex is not important to her and orgasms are not important to her.

3. As an Indian she does not believe in counseling and will not go.

Obviously I don't do it for her anymore. So what can I do?