When really bad stuff happens to me I go into one of two modes, neither one of them I feel any emotios. The first is a total shut down. Completely overwhelmed and unable to cope. When I caught my wife cheating on me this happened. I just sat on the bed for three hours rocking back and fourth. I didn't feel or think much, it was like I wasn't there. The second mode I go into is the crisis manager. When something happens, my emotions shut down ans I feel the urge to take actions and alleviate what ever caused me to feel this way.