My wife and I have been together for two and a half years. Three months ago, she was snooping on my computer and found that I had been looking at pornography. She confronted me and I admitted my mistake, wholeheartedly apologized and promised to never do it again (which I haven't since). So she then tells me that I am a sex addict and need help. I'm not closed-minded so I did some research on the SA website and am now CERTAIN that I'm not a sex addict. I've had two sex partners my whole life; my ex-wife and my current wife. I have never cheated nor even thought about cheating. I've never paid for sex. I've never looked for sex on a dating website. Sex does not dominate my thoughts or actions. Sex with my wife once or twice a week would be more than sufficient for me. I only looked at the porn a few times a month over a few month time period.

I've tried to talk to her many times but unfortunately she will not listen to me when I tell her these things. She started going to SA meetings by herself and seeing an addiction therapist to help her cope with what she thinks is my problem. I was willing to let her sort this out for herself and eventually come to the realization that she is overreacting but that hasn't happened. Whenever I try to talk to her she tells me I'm in denial, denial, denial. Over and over. I feel like perhaps these meetings and the therapist are feeding her unfounded fear.
I don't know if it's related or not but she has depression. I know she sleeps till noon almost every day and hasn't had a job in years. She also has a problem with counting OCD that she tells me makes her crazy sometimes. She's been in and out of therapy for her depression but has never told anyone but me about her counting. I'm as supportive as I can be on these issues.
I fear that our relationship may never recover from her fear. I am considering seeing the same therapist or even going to one of the meetings to confront these people and ask if they really believe my situation justifies the accusation of sex addict.
I would really appreciate some advice on what I should do to get my wife, our sex life and some normalcy back.