You do not need a 12 step program of any kind primarily because such programs even if they offer some value are mass marketing products, and you do not need a mass marketing approach. You need individual therapy in which somebody would work with you on very basic issues, patiently and for a long time.

And, mail order brides often divorce their husbands once they obtain permanent residency.

In your case, you married the guy in order to obtain the benefit of straightening, but you said that it did not work out.

So you might as well divorce him as a failed experiment.