I have been in therapy - on and off - for over 30 years. I have tried many different types including cognitive therapy, psychodynamics, psychotherapy, transactional analysis, Buddhist therapy, co-dependants anonymous, T's with their own eclectic styles, individual therapy, group therapy, retreats and others. I have tried several religions. I am often told to "pretend as if." That didn't work either - I just seem to get depressed from putting on a false face.