So i have a teenager who is 17. We r very close. We hang out together a lot (i was young when I had him.) I have babied him in many ways. I think I have done that out of guilt. One, for not having been a stable mother. Although he loves it when I'm hypo. Two bc his father hasn't been in his life much. Last night we were both excited about seeing Silver lining playbook.

When I recently went into that God awful mixed state he got a hold of his father. His father took him for 2 wks or so. I'm shocked by it.

So he comes back yesterday. I was so excited. Earlier a guy had come over to fix our hot water tank.....well my son hadn't bathed when he got home and come to find out no hot water. I'm making dinner and I call maintenance man. He had forgot to turn fuse back on or whatever. So no movie.

I have never hit my son. He is big, and he has used his size to intimidate me more than once. Well last night after not seeing him for 2 wks and that all happening, I was so freaking' stressed. I did and do yell, he absolutely hates it. I mean it makes him really angry. What he'll do is ask me ? After ?. "Why didn't he turn the fuse back on, where does he live..." it drives me nuts. So I will start off saying, "idk" he continues and then I yell "WHY DON'T YOU CALL HIM AND ASK HIM, IDK!!!"

We ended up having a wonderful night. We watched some shows he wanted me to see and he is so very wicked smart for his age. We both just really know how to push each other's buttons.

So my point....anybody have some ideas on how to respond when you feel harrassed and bombarded with ?s. Without responding by yelling.