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Old Mar 09, 2013, 04:15 PM
hamster-bamster hamster-bamster is offline
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Ok...

I had a male Indian colleague. He was a software engineer in a leading technology company in Silicon Valley. He was a charming sad looking guy. He was my office mate and he confided in me.

He and his Indian wife divorced. She left for Midwest to enter a PhD program, taking their three year old daughter with her.

A lot of things were very difficult for my office mate, including the fact that the daughter lived far away. He also needed to pay a lot of money to attorneys because his stock options presented challenges in the divorce (the ex wife had rights in the yet not vested options that were granted during the marriage). So a lot of hassle. Plus, it is hard to go through the divorce process when you are from India. You look odd to your community. Americans have the 50% rate of divorce, and Indian people living in the US are not there (yet).

So the guy was depressed and then he went on short term disability due to depression for three months. Afterwards, he returned to work and slowly ramped up to full time.

He did not commit suicide. He survived.

Your wife will survive as well.

Suicide threats are manipulative.

Last edited by hamster-bamster; Mar 09, 2013 at 06:24 PM.