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Originally Posted by bubsmiley
Hamster,
Now onto the question you asked about the Good Wife. I made a vow to and before God that I would remain married 'til death did we part. My friends and T have all said, "but he's not living up to his end of the bargain." And they are absolutely right. He isn't. BUT, does that give me license to dishonor that vow?
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Yes, I think it does. Here is why:
You can vow to remain celibate and it will be your responsibility to honor the vow because remaining celibate is completely within your control.
Building a traditional marriage based on traditional concepts is a joint enterprise of two people.
I see that he deviated from the role of the husband in a traditional marriage in several ways:
1) he is not the kind of man with whom you would want to have children, and traditional marriages usually include that component
2) he dons women's clothes and men in traditional marriages usually comply with acceptable standards of virility
3) he is not the breadwinner and not even a co-contributor to the household financially
4) combining (2) and (3), it is especially non-traditional for a man to masturbate in women's clothes purchased with his wife's earnings
Now, I am sure that if you were to go through your posts in this thread really carefully, you will collect a dozen more instances of his deviations from the role of the husband in a traditional marriage.
You won't be able to build a traditional marriage with him so you might as well stop trying.