I think he just wasn't that into you. He was into himself, and he strung you along. What's the point in saying he was your ideal woman if he was going to mess you about? He is not your ideal man. Your ideal man is someone who treats you better.

I think you have been confusing submission with something else as it sounds like you lost sight of your own needs and just bent over backwards for this guy. Personally I think his behaviour is an insult to the scene. A good Dom will be interested in you, your feelings, your needs, your limits. Submission doesn't mean putting those aside. It's not disrespectful to say you are upset; indeed it's quite common to get emotional (eg subdrop). Sounds like he was good at taking what he wanted and lousy at aftercare.

You deserve better. You need to value yourself more.