Agreed.

I have to agree with the rest of the group here. 20 is very young to be making a big huge life decision like getting married, especially if there are such huge red flags being thrown up like not really being attracted to the man that you're engaged to, questioning your sexuality, being slightly irresponsible with alcohol and drug use, and having issues with depression. Are you really ready to make a lifelong commitment to a person with all of these things going against you? Is it fair to yourself to do that? Is it fair to the other person to do that? More importantly, is it fair to your future offspring to do that?

If you really think that you're meant for each other, what does it matter if you choose to wait and put off getting married for a little while so that you can work some of these things out? At the very least so that you can get yourself established with a therapist and get your depression taken care of. As someone who ruined an engagement because I chose not to deal with my mental health issues, I can tell you that it is very important to get this taken care of before you enter into marriage. Maybe depression has something to do with why you aren't sexually attracted to your man. I have issues with this when I'm depressed, and nothing--nothing--can make me have any level of desire when I'm depressed. I don't care who the man (or woman, because I'm bisexual) is, it ain't happening.

But still...the issue of attraction to women. I think it bears looking into. For sure.