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Old Mar 10, 2013, 04:11 AM
woundedhealer woundedhealer is offline
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I am so confused, frustrated, and trying to get educated. Just learning about Schizoid Personality Disorder. Just realizing that the distance that has always been present, but increasingly worse, in my marriage has a lot to do with my husband's disorder.
I am at a loss as to how to have a conversation with him. I am talking two or three sentences! He deflects, glazes over, walks out of the room, says things that make no sense and have nothing to do with what we were talking about, or responds with demeaning and hostile comments. His tone, facial, and body language speaks the loudest and is hostile at best.
We have been married for 30+ years. I have spent those years thinking that if I just changed, or lost weight, or got healthier mentally and emotionally, or... I have also thought that if I could just explain myself another way, and so I have over and over and over again. I now know all of this was in vain.
I am angry. I feel stuck. Hopeless. And yet, I love this man. He is a good man. I feel so sad that he is stuck inside. He is not willing to get any help or do anything about it, nor will he admit to his condition.
Any advice would be helpful...
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Lovely Loss, optimize990h