Thanks Leed, I guess I just needed someone to say it. I know I shouldn't be trying to change her and control her life, I just get so freaked out that I'll be alone and miserable that I can't help it sometimes.
I know, the anger is my biggest concern. I don't want to hurt her ever but I'm worried that one day things will just go all wrong and then who knows what can happen. That's the last thing I want and I guess I've been playing the victim so long that I let myself lose sight of that. Also I am in therapy and it's primarily based around my attachment issues, quickly making clear that I'm not actually mad at anyone in my life at the moment and so I understand that very clearly.
I know she is the one suffering now, I forget that sometimes which is a shameful thing. What's worse is she is suffering because she tried too hard to help me and I just threw that all away. One of the big reasons I'm in therapy is so that I break this whole detachment thing I do and actually be as loving as I should.
Thanks Leed, I really needed to hear that. I'll make sure to do what I'm supposed to do and be a good partner.

It's not that I'm not interested, Trippin, but that I'm just empty so much of the time. When I started going out with her I was very unsure but as time goes on I feel a lot more comfortable. I do want what's best for her and I may very well need to end the relationship to make sure that happens. But I'm just not sure yet and I'd rather not make a rash decision. I spoke to her a while ago and we've both agreed that therapy would be best, so with any luck we can see how that goes and make a good decision from there.

Oh and just to add, my last relationship, the girl was with me out of pity. I do understand what that's like and you're right, it's a horrible thing.

But thank you to both of you for the help, it really means a lot and I guess I just needed some obvious and objective logic thrown into this. Again, thank you for your help .