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Originally Posted by heyitsme7
i am kind of selfish because i believe that everything i do should benefit me and everybody else. the thing about that is i have to be well in order for others to be well. that's crazy but that's just how i feel sometimes. nobody asked me how my day went when i was upset. nobody was there for me when i was bulllied. i had to ask for help myself. that is just really stupid. i had to get out myself. it's like i'm not God's gift or something.
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That's not selfish- You're beating yourself up- it's okay to want a support system when you're feeling down or going through something terrible. Really, it is.
I know I think this way a lot. I feel as if I have no right to expect anything of anyone and that, if I were just a better person, people would like me more. The thing is, when I just give give give, people just take take take. You either attract people who will use you, or the good people who really care have no idea that you need something more from them. Since people aren't mind readers, it's okay to ask for help or support when you need it. People will give it if that's what they know you need.
Of course, that's easier said than done. But please try not tell yourself to "just get over it" all the time. You're human, you have the right to feel and the right to be taken care of sometimes. By trying to do it all on your own, you're just carrying an unnecessarily heavy load.
