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Mar 10, 2013, 02:12 PM
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Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Mid World
Posts: 18,111
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Originally Posted by heyitsme7
Learning how to forget things is the most important step to recovery, because that way I won't be holding on to so much hurt in the past. I have always wanted to remain calm and collected in all situations but things just sometimes don't work out that way. I hate when that happens. I want to not be angry anymore at all. what can I do?
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Heyitsme, I believe forgetting and letting go are two different things. To me forgetting means wiping out a memory. Letting go means I've decided to find a way to move on from what happened. My T once told me I needed to "forgive and forget" my abuse. I told him I might let it go and move on, but no way was I going to forget because I could end up putting myself in a position to be abused again.
IMHO, it's unrealistic to expect to never be angry again. Anger is an emotion, like any other emotion. Would you never want to be happy again? What about your anger bothers you? That would be what I'd focus on.
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