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Old Mar 10, 2013, 03:28 PM
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Originally Posted by estel View Post
and the way she has put the entire blame on me for us not being together (oh, the blames vary every single time...she can't stick to one blame because she knows none of them are true).
Oh, that is a completely different story and one that is way worse than the story in your OP.

It is one thing to say "I am a poor creature beholden to the oppressive religion/tradition so I cannot marry you even though you have given me your absolute best." That would be a passive position. Pitiful, but passive.

It is a different thing to blame everything on YOU. That would be an aggressive, attacking position.

Night and day.