Sounds like a visit to my sister's, which I no longer do. N-word was never big up here in Canada, but since we have a lot of different immigrants, there is a whole host of ethnic/racial slurs that sister's husband and husband's brother like to use. It was embarrassing when he was in his 30s and it's still embarrassing and disgusting now he's about 60. Not that I've seen them for a while. The sitting on butts while the women do the work is also the standard there.

Those are not the kind of people you want to spend extra time with, generally. I feel slimed just thinking about it.