There is NO WAY you can help an alcoholic until HE helps himself. Unless he wants to stop more than anything else in the world, there is NOTHING you can do for him. NOTHING. All the crying, begging, pleading, bargaining in the world won't get him to stop.

He won't stop until he has lost everything, which includes his job, his home, money, car, license, and YOU. Then and only then will he MAYBE quit. He might hit bottom --- but unfortunately some NEVER hit bottom, and die.

I hope he's not one of them. Your best bet is to walk away until he can get sober. And THEN wait until he has at least a year under his belt, because he will be told NOT to enter into any relationship until he's got a year clean/sober. Then perhaps you two can start over. It will be difficult, but you might make it.

I wish you the best. But you'll do him a favor if you walk away. God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee