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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
has your T ever just cut off discussion of some topic saying that you are being resistant?
what would be the harm in talking about it? If something is brought up & T feels client is resistant, does that mean that the subject can't ever be returned to another day with better success (from the T point of view)?
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Well, a recent incident with my psychiatrist convinced me that resistance is real, it should be named by someone, and, although the provider can help one through it, it's up to us to own it and deal with it.
I was being a total brat to my psychiatrist. He was just being himself, all meds all the time. I was just angry and defensive.
He looked at me and said "so this is how it's going to be. This cat and mouse." I just stared.
"no, really" he said "Have you always been a problem?"
I said "No!" then had to admit I was being a problem with him and I didn't know wh really.
He looked at me and said "I know I will never be your old psychiatrist, but I can help you" "You may not trust me, but that lack of trust is stopping me from helping you".
He was absolutely, positively, 100% correct. I'm big enough to admit it and told him as such.
We had a very productive discussion after that about a lot of things.
Resistance exists, it blocks the process. We have to get past it somehow.
I think the best way is for all parties to be honest about it.
Then, WE have to let it go.
Help IS on the other side of it.