I don't think the marriage is about sex. I enjoy sex and I think a health releationship with two people in thier late 20 should have sex frequently. My wife also enjoys sex so it is a mutually good thing for us.

There are other deeper problems, like my wife not being honest with me about things like her student loan. Her lack of working to take care of things she agreed to pay for. Her withdrawing from responsibilities like make decisions that affect both of us and leaving me to make all the decisions. Our mutual lack of communication that lead us to not feel connected to eachother. Also her emmotional affairs with people. She should have had that emmotional connection with me, but she chose to ignore our problems and look to someone else to feel connected.

I don't think sex was ever really a problem. In the last couple months I started wanting sex everyday. I don't think it was the sex as much as just her attention and affection I was wanting. During sex was the only time I was getting that. We grew apart and stopped doing stuff together. I think I can releate to her feeling like we were roomates, because of these problems that neither one of us were addressing.

She made an appointment with my therapist. She is going to talk to her alone first and then schedule a couple's session. There are some good things about my marriage that I like. Me and my wife generally get along. I don't think she willingly takes advantage of me. I think her lack of taking care of her responsibilities was out of laziness and lack of confidence nd not malovence for me. I think the emmotional affairs were out of not knowing how go fix the problems between us and wanted to have someone to talk to, from there it spiraled into something more. I have hope for my marriage, but my wide is going to have to make some changes in her life for me to stay. I think the marriage counsling will help.