It seems that you are thinking alot about "people might be choosing" to struggle with emotional problems, especially when they have experienced "trama". What you do not realize is that the brains of "trama patients" and people who develope "PTSD" go through a "change" Venus. It is not the person's fault, and it is not "just" a matter of deciding "not to be so emotional".

It is now known that people who suffer from PTSD have experienced damage to their hypocampus, which controls emotional responses by transforming sensory stimuli into emotional and hormonal signals then refers this information to other parts that control behavior.

The amygdala is also affected which interprets messages of danger or safety. The amygdala knows nothing about reasoning or cognitive funtions, it deals with feelings and emotions. It also controls emotional reactions such as fear and anger.

The frontal cortex ability is decreased with less ability to do left-brain functions--it can't distinguish a real threat from a false threat.

I could go even further with the "changes" that take place in the brain, which does effect emotions, but it is not an "easy fix' nor is it a simple "just do this or that" for the person who is struggling. It is actually "cruel" to expect people that struggle with these "brain changes" to be able to function normally, because it isn't simply a matter of "deciding to just not react or struggle".

Every day 20 vets commit suicide because the challenge of PTSD is so exhausting for them. God only knows how many patients who struggle with PTSD that are "not" veterans of war give up. And none of these people give up without trying very hard to find a way to function better. It can be very crippling and exhausting because the entire limbic system is challenged to where the trama victim responds before the "thinking" part of the brain (ie., cerebral cortex) can weigh threats. The resultant hypervigilance seen in trauma victims can cause them to go immediately from stimulus to and arousal response, without being able to make the intervening assessment of the cause of their arousal.

The reason so many PTSD patients seek to "isolate" is because they are trying to reduce the challenge of being stimulated in a way where they lose control of how their brains respond where they cannot "intervene with these normal assessments that others do so "effortlessley". The way others offer "just" advice is not something a PTSD victim is capable of doing, so when others make these suggestions, and often do so in "condescending" manners, PTSD patients get very frustrated and angry because they can't seem to explain to others "THAT THEY CAN'T "JUST" DO THAT" now that they have PTSD damage to their brains.

What I am saying here is "not" just my opinion either. I have had to painstakenly research it to understand "why" I struggle so much and am often so very challenged by not being able to "JUST" like I used to be able to do. It is SO MUCH WORK for me to try to work around these changes that have taken place in my brain. And when others respond with comments like, "I have had bad things happen to me too, you just have to move on and not dwell, or learn to get over it" I do get upset tbh, because it is so disrespectful to a very real challenge that is often very crippling.

A broken brain? Well, I hate to think of it like that, but if you study the effects PTSD has on the brain and how a person is "really" challenged by that "change", yes there are parts of the brain that do not function normally anymore.

It is important to remember that for as much as we "have" learned about the human brain, and we have learned alot just in the last 5 years alone, there is still much we do not know. If you were to talk to a neurologist, and I have, they say, the information is there, but we havent been able to completely understand the language where we fully understand what we are seeing. And we "are" studying the brain in an effort to try to not only "understand" the very real challenges that people face, but to see if there are ways to restore better function to the areas of the brain that are not functioning right so that these patients can get some relief.