This is going to be an unpopular opinion, Adam, but I will tell you what I think anyway.

To me, marriage is not something to be taken lightly. It is easy for bystanders to come in and say "leave" or "you deserve better" or "she's no good for you". Ultimately, though, you are the person who must make that judgement call.

I've been married a long time, and I know that the majority of my negative feelings toward my husband are temporary. I married a good man. He's a good person, and a good father. He works hard. We share similar goals. We support each other.

Yes, there are things that could improve. No, my husband can't relate to me emotionally on every level, or even many levels. Yes, he does things I don't like. Yes, his moods are difficult sometimes, etc, etc. I won't bore you with all of the mundane problems that we have.

Overall, however, I know that this marriage is worth it. It's worth every sacrifice I make. It's worth losing arguments. It's worth losing sleep. It's worth hard work. I can feel it in my bones. I don't question it.

In the past we have gone through some rough times. I've questioned our marriage. I've thought about leaving. In the end, though, I am glad we worked through it. The negative feelings pass, and meanwhile my husband and I have a very deep connection and love that lasts through all of the bumps. We might not be in love with each other all of the time, but we always love one another.

I think it's commendable that you're trying to work things out with your wife and go to counselling. Even if it doesn't work out in the end, you will have been better off for trying. If you retake the quiz that you posted at the start of this thread in the future, I would be wiling to bet that your answers will change depending on the outcome of your therapy.

Best of luck.