I think it's great that you are concerned about fairness in your relationship and that you don't want your wife to make all of the sacrifices.

On the other hand, though, I think it is generally a terrible idea to compromise one's core beliefs to appease someone else. That can do nothing good for your integrity or your self worth. Thus, I think you've done the right thing, sticking to your principles.

Your wife, from what you've written, doesn't seem to mind accommodating your feelings, either.

I think one area that you might allow your wife some room is the non-sexual touching part. There are lots of people, men and women, who are just more "touchy-feely" than others. Have you examined your feelings about this, fully? What are your thoughts on the non-sexual touching in relation to your feelings? Do you feel jealous, or threatened, or afraid that she'll cheat, or afraid that her affections will go elsewhere, etc?