There are other deeper problems:
- my wife not being honest with me about things like her student loan.
- her lack of working to take care of things she agreed to pay for.
- her withdrawing from responsibilities (like making decisions that affect both of us and leaving me to make all the decisions).
- our mutual lack of communication that lead us to not feel connected to eachother.
- her emotional affairs with people.
- we grew apart and stopped doing stuff together.

She made an appointment with my therapist. She is going to talk to her alone first and then schedule a couple's session.

There are some good things about my marriage that I like:
- generally get along.
- I don't think she willingly takes advantage of me.
- I think her lack of taking care of her responsibilities was out of laziness and lack of confidence (and not malovence for me).
- I think the emotional affairs were out of not knowing how go fix the problems between us and wanted to have someone to talk to, from there it spiraled into something more.
- I have hope for my marriage

BUT
- my wife is going to have to make some changes in her life for me to stay.
I think the marriage counsling will help.