It is good that she chose to go to T on her own. One's willingness to work, willingness to go to T, one's willingness to have the drive to push forward is not determined by our parents, our relatives. Even those who have been in the military can tell you every human can get down, can have mental illness, can throw there own pity party.

The thing about strength is having the courage to make changes when you know and see that you need to. Strength is admitting you were wrong. Strength is going to T when you hate what you have become. That is what it is to be tough. So it is tough to turn your life around, get help admit you are wrong. Majority of the time efforts are paid off in the long run and I hope this is the case for you guys to. Hard work will pay off.