(((adam)))

Imo, T is what you need to do. T, as a couple, to work through these mistakes made and grow together again and stronger than ever! I am sure that your wife is hiding ghosts from her past, that made her the person that she is today. Just like you have had bad things happen in your past. We all cope with our ghosts in different ways.

Getting to understand each other better and hopefully let all of those walls down inside T on both sides will be exactly what you both need to feel love and acceptance from one another. I wish you both the very best as a couple! It can be hard work ~ but I DO think that it's worth it!!