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Originally Posted by yellowted
if your wife is not sexually attracted to you but will not permit you to leave for convenience reasons on her behalf, then i see no reason why you can't come to some agreement over you using sex toys to orgasm yourself or to use another woman in a different place for sexual encounters. After all you are a full blooded male who has needs which need fulfilling even if she has not got those needs or is fulfilling them in some other way without you.
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That may be an answer but not every woman would agree to be used for sexual encounters, or, in general, to be used for some purpose rather than be treated as a human being. The main difference between people and sex toys, as far as I have been able to discern without actually having sex toys, is that people want to be treated as humans while sex toys do not.
On a more practical note... I had a distant friend in SF, a very pretty Ukrainian woman in her early fifties. She was a widow with two children following suicide of her husband.
At some point she had a relationship with an American guy whom she liked a lot. He was married to a Persian woman. Sexless marriage, with two levels of hearsay - that is what she said he said. The guy said he was unable to divorce the wife for reasons similar to those stated. In OP.
Eventually, after a lot of drama, my friend switched her focus to another American guy who was single and unburdened by any obligations to follow somebody else's cultural norms.
I am not saying that this would be the outcome if OP takes your advice, certainly not necessarily, but statistically speaking divorcing would broaden his range of options for sure.