1. Give him 1 mg melitonan at night.
2. Take him to a children's hospital where they can rule out sensory issues, medical issues and other health issues before labeling him adhd. At the very least get an occupational therapy evaluation, and a psychiatrist eval. a lot of things can look or over lap with adhd.
3. For us bed-time is quiet time in your room. If you come out of your room, you call us in, or there's to much noise it's real bed time. We use a flashlight and books to look at only. Whether his mind is at rest doesn't matter his body is.

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