Thread: Complex PTSD?
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Old Mar 12, 2013, 08:54 AM
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Originally Posted by hankster View Post
what do you call having a broken finger and no one looking after it; your brother flicking lighted matches at you, and spying on you in the bathroom? That is not playing happy families.

You can say it wasn't that bad AFTER you've dealt with your feelings; if you say it wasn't that bad BEFORE, then that's called denial.

At least rain has been able to have a normal life - kids, grandkids - in spite of everything.


Additionally Rainbow, a brother who would do these things has a certain development and way of looking at the world > lack of respect for others, lack of empathy, centered on his needs at the expense of others, etc. How did he develop this way? What was he taught and not taught by your parents? His way of interacting affected your family environment not to mention that this same family environment affected him and this same bigger family environment affected you (which parents are in charge of).

About your finger, you learned to not communicate with your parents. To me this means that communication probably didn't occur in your family.
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