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Originally Posted by Maranara
We are also champion "fakers". People do not see the distress that we are in much of the time because we refuse to show it, and when we do it's usually because the emotions went "over the top" to where they became uncontrollable to NOT show or because they came on really suddenly before we could maintain the composure needed for it not to come out....and a lot of the times when we DO show the emotions they are usually over things the average person takes as "trivial". They do not know why we get upset and stay upset over things that don't bother them in the first place.
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i don't so much see it as "faking" it. like UD said, if the people who haven't gone through all this all their lives suddenly got dumped with everything we've ever been through all at once, there's no doubt in my mind they would be curled up in a corner 24/7 and wouldn't know what to do with themselves.
meanwhile, you are still going to work every day, you are getting up and doing something. yes, you break down once in a while because yes, it's hard to deal with what you've been through and you can't pretend all the time. but you can at least pretend everything is okay, when these other people with these "perfect" lives haven't developed the coping mechanisms that you have because they haven't dealt with all the **** you've been dealt.
i know i just repeated everything but pretending everything is okay is just another coping mechanism that other people who don't have to pretend just don't have.
that's why they don't understand. but they would freak out if the shoe was ever on the other foot.