You know, I think showing rather than saying isn't such a bad thing. My ex said things but never showed them, so they weren't really true, they were just things he said.

I think the important thing here is to understand that everyone perceives situations differently. You think that, because he didn't offer to move the game until you said it, he must not care. That's because that's what all of that means to you. But he may not see things in that way. He probably thinks: she knows I care, as I acted on what she said.

I think it sounds like you're not in tune with each other, and it sounds like you have trouble stating your needs.

For the record, I love my husband to bits, but I'm not going to sacrifice other things in my life that matter to me. Being in love doesn't mean always putting the other person first. It's important to put yourself first, too. You say he's insecure. I think you're feeling insecure about yourself, too, and he feeds that, and it's all going round in this horrible cycle.

Why do you have to be the one to apologise? Because he expects that? Which would be unfair and abusive. Or because you do? In which case it's time to ask yourself why.