Some would say it's realizing that we're all more alike than we are different. Seeing
yourself as a loser is one thing you'll want to remove from your thought process.

Why do you set a date for meeting a young lady? You may or may not be ready for that in the next year; it all depends on how you apply your learning steps to becoming the man you want to be.

Try reading a few meditation works, such as Keep It Simple or Forgiving and Moving On or Around The World With Emmett Fox. They're good places to start to get a
new view of who you really are.

One more thing: we are all created equal; we are not born equal, however. So it's
up to you to live your life by your deepest principles. Doing so will give you a good
feeling about yourself and help you to become just who you want to be.

Nothing beats the efforts of people to overcome alcoholism in the Hazeldon Foundation's work called Alcoholics Anonymous. It gives 12 steps to apply to learn
how to live a full and productive life. Apply those to yourself and you'll have all the
success you will need in life to be a happy husband with a nice wife and healthy children, in my view.