I hate the doorbell, knocking at the door and a ring tone from an unknown caller. Maybe I'm antisocial, idk. If you're part of my inner circle, you know you don't have to knock, you just come right in.

Doorbells, knocking and unknown ring tones mean drama. I don't need drama! I LIKE my peace and quiet. Some people have boundary issues, for that I have a Rott. Now WE know she's the sweetest thing ever, my friends and family know she's the sweetest thing ever, but outsiders, well...

I have never in my life just dropped by someone's house. Except for close family or friends. I have never met someone at work, or church, or any of the kids' extra cirricular activities and just decided to stop by. Never. I cannot comprehend why other people think that's ok. My home is my sanctuary and you must be invited in!

A co-worker of mine had surgery earlier this winter. She's "drop by" kind of gal. I've told her over and over again, do not come to my house unannounced, I will not see you. If you want to come over, call first (is this too much to ask?). Anyway, she had surgery that required her to take several months off. I knew she's a single mother and on a limited income. So I made her a lasagna and the trimmings and put a Get well soon card on it and dropped it off like a thief in the night. My GM figured out that it was me, and asked why I didn't sign the card. I said because that would be like an open invitation for her to come to my house every day of the week and I was not having it.

I have lived in this house for 15 years. It's a small community but I couldn't pick my neighbors out of a line up. When I started working at the place I am now, one of the managers said it was nice to finally meet me, she'd been my neighbor for 7 years and saw me twice putting laundry out on the line. Being stand offish has its advantages. One co-worker confronted me. It seems her grandson was having problems with "a mean old woman." His father apparently lives next door. I told her that it must be the woman on the other side of them, because I'd never even laid eyes on the boy. Last I knew the young man that lived there had two little girls playing in the yard, I'd never even seen a boy. (Seems I was a bit behind the times, the two little girls belonged to his girlfriend and they'd been broken up for a year. ) So if you want to know what's going on in my neighborhood, don't ask me.

So PP welcome to the club! It's peaceful here!