I don't know how this will come off, as I am high on all sorts of meds for the flu & bronchitis... so please bear with me if I make no sense, just smile & nod...

first, I can relate. a lot of the time, I don't feel "bad" enough to seek help. I feel like my problems are not "real" enough... it takes a lot of self-talk to convince myself that, while I don't necessarily "compare" on the severity scale in my eyes, my own problems are as devastating (if not more so) as the problems of others. This took me a long time to learn, and longer to implement, but I'm getting there.

When I write "stay safe" in response to a blog, I do it because I know asking the person not to self injure in hypocritical and often not helpful. I know when I was told not to hurt myself in the past, I always took it as the person's misunderstanding of my pain; like just someone telling me not to cut would wipe away the urges and the hurt... so I try not to say that unless it seems that the person is in a place where they can accept it and run with it...

I never say "stay safe" as a challenge or a back-handed put-down. Everyone hurts differently... it means I hope you keep reaching out and doing what you need to in order to minimize the physical and emotional damage...

all that said, I'll try to remember not to put that on your posts... ((hugs))