LOL, I had that a lot, people telling me that I need to scrutinize my childhood because it is so to blame and it can't be perfect.

Eh. No one has a perfect childhood. I didn't either. My parents had both good and bad influence. At the end my parents had an unhappy marriage. I was trusted early to take care of myself. For good and bad. We had stressful family situations. I had two harsh years at school where I was friends with someone who was very bullied. When I was a teen I argued a lot with my mom, she was overly stressed by work, education and family life. I had cool grandparents. I always had at least one friend.

Life is complex. There is good and bad. Most of the bad I actually dealt with while it happened. Some people have extreme abuse in their life. So I'm not going to dig up every little negativity in my life and try to blame my issues on that. Because everyone has bad times. If I felt they had a lot to do with my current situation it would be different. But I don't feel that and I feel it because it is true for me.

What is true for others is true to them.

I don't use any game to blame genes or whatever. I mean I have a physical illness that is part genetic part triggered. I don't blame the genes, I don't blame the trigger. It doesn't make it someone else's deal. It will always be my deal to live with the illness for as long as I live. Thinking I know a little about the causes I don't shift responsibility over to anyone else. It's not "unfair" either. Some days it really sux, and that is life. But if I want to say it sux doesn't mean someone else will come running and take over my issues for me.