The important thing for the DBT and meditation to work is to practice it everyday regardless of whether you feel you need it or not. After a while, you'll start feeling better and you'll tell yourself that you don't need it anymore and you'll be okay and you'll basically stop. Then, the feelings will come back and all the coping techniques you learned from it are basically down the drain. That's where I am right now. When I was in basically a crisis state, I did them religiously all the time and then it passed and I'm trying to rediscover it because my hyper anxious/constantly thinking state that could easily reach that point is in the process of coming back.

And there isn't such a thing as "normal" meditating...it's whatever works for you. A good one is a walking meditation. You focus on observing everything through sight, then through hearing, then through your movements and you alternate between the three. I've found that helpful when you can't sit still. Those two sites I gave you are very, very good. You can also bring up meditation apps for your phone or tablet.