Well she's not a child, she's 24 . It's a difficult transition. She can sometimes be... selfish. She's kind and generous with her friends, but has been taking her family for granted lately and it is difficult to swallow.

My middle son moved got an apartment with her this year to help her while she's in grad school. He cooks, cleans, and does so much for her. It has really been good to see them connect as adults and leave the sibling rivalry in the past.

A few weeks ago she got two kittens from the shelter. Both she and her brother are allergic to cats. Not as bad as their father, they will get used of the dander but it is a miserable transition. My son had no idea she planned on bringing them home. In any event he's sick. When she text me tonight I asked her to set up the vaporizer with the vapo steam in his room for him so when he gets home from work, he just has to pop an allergy pill, turn on the vaporizer and go to sleep. And hopefully feel better tomorrow. (He has done these things for her already, plus made her homemade chicken noodle soup. But she hates to cook.) It turned into an issue because she had to go down the street to get him the allergy meds. Stating he's an adult, he can get his own medicine.

We are very disappointed with her behavior lately. I'm glad that she's grown into a strong independent woman. But we did not raise her to be this selfish. When she was sick, our son took care of her without even being asked.

Plus, as I pointed out to her, she brought the cats home even though she knew her brother would not like it. They were sick of course, and he's the one that has been giving them their meds etc. (She is a full time grad student, with an internship and a full time job, part-time job and volunteer work in her field).