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Originally Posted by monarch_butterfly
My boyfriend who does not have any college degree but who did research on multiple websites came tp the conclusion i may have DID. Then my little Anna came out this weekend for the first time with him and he treated her aparently with respect and at a childs level as she came switched with me four more times to play with him. They played Chutes and Ladders.
Then today I was talking with my nurse L about my family apparently a trigger because Anna switched with me again. My boyfriend said L did not treat Anna with respect and talked to her as a parent would a kid who was in trouble! L was working on her masters in psychology before she needed to stop the program. According to L the more Anna switches with me the more control she will get which is what she is seeking. Anna says she is here to keep me safe. There is more to it.. but. Anna apparently said L was mean.
I am curious how others treat your alters? I want people to treat mine as they want to be treated. I don't tjink the answer is to be mean. BF said L told Anna "we don't nerd you. Kerri doesn't need you she is strong" and he thinks Anba stuck around longer then she would have.
Thoughts?
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after I was diagnosed everyone treated me the same way that they treated me before I was diagnosed DID. getting the diagnosis doesnt change anything other than giving a name to what has already been happening...
example I split into alters before the age of 5. that meant those alters have been coming out and doing what ever they were created to be and do since before I was 5. it isnt like one day at age 19 I suddenly switched into alters..like one day at age 19 I got the measles. getting the diagnosis just put a name on whats already been happening.
before I was integrated and a switch would happen with a doctor they just continued treating the same way they would have it no switch had happened.
but I do know some people with DID who prefer their treatment providers talk to them like they would a child if they switch into a child and all that stuff. sometimes doctors do and sometimes they dont.
my suggestion...you are the one with this alter coming out. so its up to you to talk with your doctors and let them know how you want things to be handled when this alter comes out...just like if you had a normal problem you would discuss with your doctor how you want to be treated for that ear infection, body exam or what ever contact with a treatment provider you need.
doctors are like anything, any body else, some people like their doctors to talk calm and sweet, sugar coat things and other people want a doctor who will be honest, some people want a doctor who uses manners and others dont care about doctors using manners and such..
doctors are not mind readers so of course they are not going to treat you the way you want to be treated unless you take the time to talk with them.