I'd just like to point out that the word disorder sounds so strong, especially when it's attached to something like our personality. After all that's who we are. But the way I'd like to think of a disorder such as a personality disorder is this. We all have personality modes, different ones that help us deal with the world and control our moods and emotions. They are supposed to all be assembled in order but when we have a deep problem such as the one you mentioned, which I have too. An abandonment issue will cause a part of our personality to become disordered from the others. This has a strong influence on our behaviour. Remember it this personality mode that's disordered, not you. With some good coping skills learned from a Therapist you will over come this!