Hi HereandThere,

I very rarely make eye contact with my T and I have been seeing her 6 years now

I think building up trust is very important and can take different amounts of time for everyone. For example, as someone with BPD, trust is an extremely difficult thing for me and it has taken me literally years to build that up and even now I still doubt T sometimes. So just be patient and take things as they come. Don't stress about doing it right or wrong, as someone said, there is no 'right' way of doing therapy. Just talk about what you feel you need to and go with the flow. Hopefully with more time and trust, things will seem clearer. Good luck!