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Originally Posted by tinyrabbit
I think that was a pointless thing for him to say. You're not his other clients, you are you! Was the problem really him not saying what he wanted... or him not listening to what YOU wanted? Therapy is for you!
Personally I only talk about my week if I feel it's relevant eg if something happened with my family or I had a bad experience or indeed a really good one. Yesterday we talked about: whether my T has a rule about not passing people tissues, getting comfortable in therapy, boredom, my throat, vinegar, Facebook, my ex, yawning, a flashback I had, and crying. And I showed him some photos.
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One of my major problems is taking the blame for everything, and I did this in therapy as well, so I don't know what was my responsibility and what was his. I spent a lot of time and energy trying to change my communication style so that he would understand me, which I know sounds ridiculous. I tried so hard to make it work, and it ended up being just really painful for me.
My new t understands me so well, and is so much a better fit. I was terrified to change t's, but it was the best thing I've done. I'm still sad about leaving him, and I see him once in a while and email him updates also.
So back to the original question - is there a right or wrong way to do therapy? I guess the better question is "Is there a better or worse therapist or type of therapy for each of us". The key is, how do we know?