Hi dear Theresa -- I can certainly understand your being disappointed in not getting pregnant before your sister. I really can.

But honey, it's not her fault. Can you (in your head) switch situations and try to feel how you would feel if things were switched? What if YOU were pregnant first, and your sister acted like you're acting? How would you feel? Would it hurt you if your sister avoided you and didn't react happy at the news? I imagine it would. You'd be hurt.

She just wanted you to SHARE with her, the good news. She wasn't trying to throw anything into your face. It was a SHARING experience with her big sister. That should be a wonderful experience. Unfortunately, it turned out badly.

I know you're hurting. And I know you wanted to get pregnant and now can't because of your job loss. But this isn't the end of the world, and you still have plenty of time to get pregnant. In fact, I'll bet you could get pregnant right now if you two tightened your belts a bit and watched your spending. Afterall, if you got a job and then got pregnant, you'd have to quit your job anyway after a time. So what's the difference??? You sure can't work while you're having labor pains. And you can't work when the baby is 3 days old, etc.

So why not keep trying? I would. Just tighten the belt, and watch the spending. You'll make it. And there's always help if you need it.
I wish you the very best my friend. And please make up with your sister. Just tell her you had a brain-fart, and weren't thinking right. LOL God bless you and please take care of yourself. And let us know when the little one is on the way, okay? Hugs, Lee